Questions to Ask Yourself in Times of Change

Written by: Corinne Carter, Relationship Therapist

Hello, Everyone!  Our brief blogging hiatus is over and we're back in blogging action!  For the past few weeks, while we haven't been busy writing our blog, we have been busy renovating and relocating to a new office.  We are very excited to be in a new office space and are looking forward to sharing it with our clients!  We'll post some pictures of the new space to our blog soon.

During our recent move to a new office, a couple of things were highlighted which we thought might be worth mentioning here:

1) Friendship is one of life's greatest gifts; friends who are willing to carry large boxes up and down awkward staircases for you, and who are willing to stay awake into the wee hours of the night helping you assemble Ikea furniture, are THE greatest!

2) Like any period of transition, moving (as overwhelming and maddening as it can be at times) provides us with a prime opportunity for reflection and reassessment of our lives.

Life is hectic for many of us.  It's easy to get caught on the "day-to-day treadmill", running in one place without taking any breathers to notice where you are and what you're doing, and not really moving forward in any particular direction.  Transition periods invite us to step off the treadmill for a minute and get our feet on solid ground again.  Whether you're going through a major transition period (e.g., changing jobs, changing homes, becoming a parent, coping with the loss of a loved one, etc.) or you're experiencing transition on a smaller scale (e.g., changing coffee shops because your old spot closed down, switching from "work mode" to "home mode" after hours, waking up 30 minutes earlier each morning, etc.), use these times as an opportunity to check in with yourself and ask the following questions:

1) What is happening in my life right now and how do I feel about it?  What is the reality I'm currently facing?

2) How have my past experiences helped me get to where I am now (good, bad, or otherwise)?  What have I already experienced that can help me get through any current challenges?

3) Where do I want to go from here?  What path do I want to be on?  What is the vision I have for myself going forward?  What am I willing to do to get there?  What resources are available to help me move forward in this direction?

Change can be difficult.  However, taking time to ask ourselves these types of questions during periods of transition can help us to create lives that are more purposeful and, when we live with purpose, we tend to feel our best!