Post written by: Corinne Carter, Relationship Therapist
Sh*t happens and, when it does, it’s helpful to have some strategies in place to deal with the mess! Below are three tips to help you cope the next time your circumstances seem less than crap-tastic.
- Feel your Feelings: before you clean up the mess, let yourself get knee-deep in sh*t (you're welcome for the imagery on that one)! In other words, allow yourself to feel your feelings and acknowledge the emotions that are coming up for you. Whether it’s frustration, anger, sadness, disappointment...give yourself permission to be fully in that place of emotion. Cry if you need to. Take a drive and scream it out (you might want to make sure you’ve got the windows rolled up!). Meditate. Say the words out loud, “I feel [fill in the blank]”. Unacknowledged feelings are more likely to get stuck in our bodies and manifest as physical pain and tension; simply feeling your feelings (without trying to change them) can be enough to release them from your body, helping to mitigate both physical and psychological aches. As well, acknowledging your emotions can help you to better identify your needs, which can be valuable in any post-“poop happens” planning that you do moving forward.
- Laugh: The saying, “Laughter is the best medicine” was created for a reason because it truly is good for your mind, body, and relationships. In the midst of stress, laughter can help you to relax, minimize distress, and point a light-hearted lens at the situation to open up new perspectives. The next time crap happens, look for the humour in the situation. Don’t take yourself too seriously all the time (self-disclosure moment: this blog post is totally my way of not taking myself too seriously right now!). Ask yourself, “Is this really that important? Will it still matter a year from now?” By developing an appreciation for life's follies, you create a buffer that helps to keep you from being completely swept away in the sh*tstorm! For more information on the health benefits of laughter, click here.
- Practice Gratitude: Gratitude works– it’s a science! In particular, research has shown that people who practice gratitude on a regular basis demonstrate higher levels of mental alertness and determination, experience greater levels of happiness and optimism, report fewer physical symptoms, and fare better in the face of daily stressors. In other words, a little gratitude each day helps keep the doctor away. And the practice of gratitude (both in the moment and proactively) helps to make sh*tty situations more bearable by widening your perspective, developing your resilience, and helping you keep a positive outlook.
I hope you enjoyed this playful, poop-filled post! How do you cope when life sneaks up on you and makes a big ol’ mess? Let us know in the comments below!